I am taking some time to revisit my number 1 & 2 books.
G2A Booklist They do an excellent job of helping the reader to understand the challenges we all face when we strive to be self aware. And how hard it is to challenge our own beliefs, especially when discussing a topic we feel strongly about.
An important first step is as follows.
“Have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong. If you are not wrong, then you will be willing to consider how you might be mistaken.”
― Arbinger Institute, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
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I thought this was a worthwhile note because it seems we all continually fall into our historical position instead of even considering the other possible shades of gray. Then again, maybe each of us knows better than everyone else... To believe that would be normal.
Interesting how us humans can believe so differently and yet we insist adamantly that our truth is the only correct truth. I guess that must mean we are incredibly smart and everyone else must be stupid...
So my challenge to all: try being willing to look for how you may be mistaken... It can provide for an excellent experience.
Thoughts?
Per J's comment, here is more of the quote:
"“Okay, first of all,” Lou began, “I asked whether it makes any difference in a conflict if one side is in the right and the other in the wrong. So I ask again: doesn’t that matter?”
“Yes,” Yusuf replied, “it does matter. But not in the way you think it does.”
“What is that supposed to mean?”
“Well, Lou,” Yusuf responded measuredly, “have you ever been in a conflict with someone who thought he was wrong?”
Lou thought of Cory and the boardroom meeting with his five mutinous executives.
“No,” he answered coolly. “But that doesn’t mean they’re not.”
“True,” Yusuf agreed. “But you see, no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party begins to consider how he might be wrong.”
“But what if I’m not wrong!” Lou blurted.
“If you are not wrong, then you will be willing to consider how you might be mistaken.”
“What kind of twisted riddle is that?”
Yusuf smiled. “It only seems like a riddle, Lou, because we are so unaccustomed to considering the impact of what is below our words, actions, and our thoughts.”"