Okay... Preacher John is hear again to explain a simple way to be happier...
STOP FOCUSING ON THESE THINGS
This weekend I spent some time with a person who can not let go of a 30+ year old argument. Instead of focusing on all the great things in their life they insist on bring up the same old tired issue.
And of course it causes a lot of stress during the holidays because who out there likes spending time with people who are often...
STOP FOCUSING ON THESE THINGS
This weekend I spent some time with a person who can not let go of a 30+ year old argument. Instead of focusing on all the great things in their life they insist on bring up the same old tired issue.
And of course it causes a lot of stress during the holidays because who out there likes spending time with people who are often...
- Criticizing - Nobody can ever do anything right for this person.
- Complaining - Nothing is ever good enough for this person.
- Comparing - This person compares people or possessions with envy, jealousy or put-downs.
- Competing - For sense of worth within relationship, families, work teams and cultures. This person thinks they are better, smarter or richer than everyone else.
- Contending - This person tries to make other people look like losers, so he or she can look like a winner. Everything is a competition.
- Cynicism - contemptuously distrustful of human nature and motives; an inclination to believe that people are motivated purely by self-interest; skepticism
- Control - having a need to dictate other people's behavior; having the need to dictate how something is managed or done; finds it difficult to let others behave / do things as they wish.
The good news is that I have learned to love this person in spite of their flaws, and how to maintain boundaries for my health. (usually they hold... :-)) However I think they would be much happier if they would think more often of the wonderful things in life. (family, health, stability, etc) Instead of focusing on the things can not control.
Oh well, thankfully I have learned that I can only control myself... I can nudge and coach others, but ultimately they need to make the decisions and take the actions. :-) Here is to being thankful during the holiday season and all year round. G2A Principles As the tree shows, for most of us Americans life is really good. Unfortunately many folks insist on staring at the bottom of the tree. :-(
1 comment:
I have some relatives like this as well. I found the book, Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel Amen very helpful. He talks about ANTs, Automatic Negative Thoughts that many people have and the science behind it. It also has quizzes to take so you can determine where you or someone else falls as far as where the brain is activated.
Molly
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