Co-Dependence vs Unconditional Love?

 A FB Friend posted this and it resonated with me.  Here are my random thoughts that it generated:

• Every family is unique and has its own dynamics.
• Loving people unconditionally is important to to me.
• However it is also critical to stand up for one's self and maintain boundaries when necessary.
• Some people generate energy in others and some people drain energy from others.
• The "energy generators" tend to be positive, accept you, try to help you, etc.
• The "energy vampires" often complain, compare, compete or seek to control you.
• The only person we can control is ourselves, others need to decide for themselves.
• The challenge of course is how to tell a challenging person that you love them, but that you will simply not spend time with them if the exhibit unacceptable behaviors in your presence.
• And if they will not or can not change, then deciding what to do and doing it?
• In my case, that means not cutting difficult people out of my life. But deciding how much and how often I am willing to give them my energy, focus, efforts, etc as a gift.
• I seek to reassure them I still love them, and yet I limit my time and efforts with them to keep myself healthy.
• A reminder: many "energy vampires" are unaware that they are doing it and have a bottomless stomach.  You have to set the boundaries and maintain them for your health and well being.
• Then it is up to them to decide if they want to change or not. 

Thoughts?